If I could write like someone other than myself, I'd want to write like you. It's not just the content, it's the feeling of of reality and honesty that comes across. It doesn't matter if it's fiction or autobiography, and I'll never know, you are always believable. You are one of the few people in this world that I would like to sit down and talk with.
I'm sincerely touched by these words! It's a tapestry but mostly true. Until I wrote memoir I always wondered "Wow! How do people remember all this detail?" Now I understand that memoirists write with impressionistic hindsight. And the perspective is so subjective because memory is. Last week I met with a man I was friends with when I was very young. He reminded me of several things that I couldn't recall at all. I was too shy to ask him about the things I did recall. Maybe next time. Thanks so much for expressing these thoughts. I'm so glad this is how it lands for you.
"Impressionistic hindsight." That's an apt description. I can write only what I remember and I never know if it really happened that way. Not that that matters. A memory will lead to an embellishment, which leads to a memory that expands the original memory. I was writing to my daughter last week and telling her about my childhood and at the end of the letter I thought, was it really like that? It may mean more to the reader than to the writer.
Very well put. This is what it's like. It's underlined for me the essential truth that there is no one truth. There are simply perspectives. Think of a war for instance.
So much history we take as writ but it's entirely a matter of which side one is on, and what time one lives in. The concrete details are easier and I like using these as well, with no embellishment. "Aashish walks through the ritual. Aashish wears white." Hard to get this part wrong. Having said this, here's a shocking example of getting this type of detail wrong. I went by my mother's old house the other day, that I grew up in. I came away certain that the new owners had put up an ugly fence made of 2" wide rough wood slotted in mesh wire. I kept exclaiming about this. I went back a week later only to discover that the fence is quite an expensive architectural affair, curving and neatly made, absolutely no wire involved. Talk about leading with prejudice: I don't like what they've done to the house. Practically speaking, the main thing I'm always aware of altering are the details that would reveal identity, mine and that of others...nouns for instance.
That's interesting about your former house. Last week I put the address of the first house that I lived in into google and a real estate site showed up with photo of the house that looks exactly like it did in 1943. I was surprised that I remembered it that accurately.
Yes, it important to not reveal identity on the internet.
Arguements about the way things were is only useful for writing about them. I think that most people, who experienced the same event, remember it differently. How we feel about the event colors our memories, and really, how improtant are they? I suppose for legal reasons they could be imortant, but for everyday living, not so much. I find that drinking water is more important than what I remember.
Can I fall in love with you now? As if asking permission was necessary.
I like the structure of the piece, showing little glimpses of your relationship that paint a much fuller picture than if you just described everything in a long essay. Nice read.
Si glad to hear it! Thank you! They will be published next Sunday and the one after! You are a subscriber I think? In which case they’ll be delivered to you!
Ok. Thanks r the info🙂 Well im not a subscriber and I just am wsiting 4 a movie refund so cant do 2day but will check in2 it soon. I really thought it was a beautiful story!
If I could write like someone other than myself, I'd want to write like you. It's not just the content, it's the feeling of of reality and honesty that comes across. It doesn't matter if it's fiction or autobiography, and I'll never know, you are always believable. You are one of the few people in this world that I would like to sit down and talk with.
I'm sincerely touched by these words! It's a tapestry but mostly true. Until I wrote memoir I always wondered "Wow! How do people remember all this detail?" Now I understand that memoirists write with impressionistic hindsight. And the perspective is so subjective because memory is. Last week I met with a man I was friends with when I was very young. He reminded me of several things that I couldn't recall at all. I was too shy to ask him about the things I did recall. Maybe next time. Thanks so much for expressing these thoughts. I'm so glad this is how it lands for you.
"Impressionistic hindsight." That's an apt description. I can write only what I remember and I never know if it really happened that way. Not that that matters. A memory will lead to an embellishment, which leads to a memory that expands the original memory. I was writing to my daughter last week and telling her about my childhood and at the end of the letter I thought, was it really like that? It may mean more to the reader than to the writer.
Very well put. This is what it's like. It's underlined for me the essential truth that there is no one truth. There are simply perspectives. Think of a war for instance.
So much history we take as writ but it's entirely a matter of which side one is on, and what time one lives in. The concrete details are easier and I like using these as well, with no embellishment. "Aashish walks through the ritual. Aashish wears white." Hard to get this part wrong. Having said this, here's a shocking example of getting this type of detail wrong. I went by my mother's old house the other day, that I grew up in. I came away certain that the new owners had put up an ugly fence made of 2" wide rough wood slotted in mesh wire. I kept exclaiming about this. I went back a week later only to discover that the fence is quite an expensive architectural affair, curving and neatly made, absolutely no wire involved. Talk about leading with prejudice: I don't like what they've done to the house. Practically speaking, the main thing I'm always aware of altering are the details that would reveal identity, mine and that of others...nouns for instance.
That's interesting about your former house. Last week I put the address of the first house that I lived in into google and a real estate site showed up with photo of the house that looks exactly like it did in 1943. I was surprised that I remembered it that accurately.
Yes, it important to not reveal identity on the internet.
Arguements about the way things were is only useful for writing about them. I think that most people, who experienced the same event, remember it differently. How we feel about the event colors our memories, and really, how improtant are they? I suppose for legal reasons they could be imortant, but for everyday living, not so much. I find that drinking water is more important than what I remember.
Can I fall in love with you now? As if asking permission was necessary.
Beautifully said!
Hahaha correct. That’s not one for me to answer.
Saved by the belle.
Enjoyed it the way I might a piece of music.
That’s a lovely reaction Jason! And YOU are my first paid subscriber. I will truly never forget you.
I'm honored.
I like the structure of the piece, showing little glimpses of your relationship that paint a much fuller picture than if you just described everything in a long essay. Nice read.
Thanks so much Bethel!
wow...
Thank Philip! Much appreciated.
Extremely captivating. Couldn't look away from the screen--that first paragraph pulled me
Thank you! Wonderful feedback to receive first thing! I appreciate you taking the time to comment. Stay tuned for this week’s.
Really well-written and absorbing❣️Awakened my romantic side again. My interest is piqued, how do I get parts 2 & 3? Thank you 4 sharing.
Si glad to hear it! Thank you! They will be published next Sunday and the one after! You are a subscriber I think? In which case they’ll be delivered to you!
Ok. Thanks r the info🙂 Well im not a subscriber and I just am wsiting 4 a movie refund so cant do 2day but will check in2 it soon. I really thought it was a beautiful story!
Free subscription at present!
Thanks!
Happy Sunday all! Part II is now available!